On the other hand, from an outward perceptive, one will need to learn and understand the behavior of the people they are interested. From table 8.7, there is a loving type that is primarily based on the other person looks. As such, although looks may be so appealing, one needs to understand the other person behavior and scan for traces of obsessive traits as detailed in Moore’s book. I concur with this understanding since it creates a desirable situation where one will need to take time before entering into a commitment with another since one will only have a fair understanding of another after they have spent sufficient time together. The approach, therefore, seems to be leaning to stodge form of loving. The form of loving is based on friendship that gradually grows into a commitment. Although this route is quite slow, it is a relatively safe approach to a relationship compared to Eros, Mania, and Ludus. Also, since understanding another person behavior will involve logical decisions, it means that the approach to thoroughly understand another person will also lean towards pragma form of love (Miller, 2014). Therefore, loving somebody is not entirely a matter of the heart. One will need to think through before getting into any commitment for one to increase chances of having a healthy relationship. The reading affirm my personal view on mate selecting since mate selecting can be viewed as a calculated risk that is guided by personal interest and heart desires but embraces rationalism. References Dan, like so many of us who had an abusive parent, found himself unable to stop the cycle of violence as he grew into adulthood. It is a common misconception to believe that children reared by physically abusive parents grow up to inflict Mania can describe the relationships presented in the book Confusing Love with Obsession. Main characters of the story have different experiences with their partners. However, all of these heroes have the same number of characteristics in regards to their relationships. They are possessive, either through controlling their partners or demanding their excessive attention. Secondly, the main characters tend to think about their relationship as a necessity to live. The thoughts about their partners fill the minds of the heroes to the extent of not being able to think about anything else. Main characters expect their partners to have the same level of affection and thus they may demand undivided attention, which is also a trait of manic love. Association with the Characters

While it is clear, that associating somebody with one of the main characters or their partners means admitting that this person likely was in an obsessive relationship, there is a person that, in my opinion, would identify with one of the stories. One of my acquaintances experienced having such a relationship in high school. In that situation, he could most likely identify with Stacy, Chris’s first girlfriend. Similar to Stacy’s situation, my friend was in a relationship with a girl, who gradually became more and more controlling. She would call multiple times a day to ask where he is and what he is doing. Moreover, she would get angry at him wanting to spend time alone or with his friends. My friend started to feel as if he was being followed and became restless. His girlfriend was unhappy and anxious, especially after they broke up. demanding the same standards we expect of our partner from our children, parents, or other family members and friends becoming verbally abusive to others because of our loss of control over a loved one using physical violence against other people because we are angry at actions or suspected actions of a mate In conclusion, in a world, that places significance in building and maintaining good relationships with our loved ones, the knowledge and insight gained from Lee’s Intimate Relationships and Moore’s Confusing Love with Obsession will come in handy. The types of love espoused by Lee enable one to choose the best kind of love s/he wishes to give to his/her loved one/partner. Finally, knowing the dangers of love addiction will go a long way in ensuring my emotional and even physical safety, as I engage in more relationships in life. Reference Paul E. Mullen, Michele Pathé, and Rosemary Purcell, “The Management of Stalkers,” Advances in Psychiatric Treatment, no. 7 (2001): 335–42, apt.rcpsych.org/cgi/content/full/7/5/335.

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After destroying an innumerable multitude of living beings, it had propagated itself without respite from place to place, and so calamitously, had spread into the West. Bogerts, B. "Delusional jealousy and obsessive love -- causes and forms." MMW Fortschr Med 147.6 Feb. 2005: 26-29. up in an environment where our parents were emotionally unavailable or were physically abusive, we seek attention from other sources and use control tactics to keep people from leaving us. In the childhood homes of those of us who went on to confuse love with obsession, the following may have occurred:

It is as if we cannot hear the spoken words from the other person. We argue with him until he says the things we want to hear, for example, “I guess you are right; I should have been seeing things from your point of view.” 14. We use sex as a tool of control and manipulation. This control tactic is particularly effective for the person who confuses love with obsession because it is inherently emotionally based. Using sex as a tool of control can include the following behaviors: Dear Mr. Moore: I am in an abusive relationship with a man. Although I know he loves me, sometimes I get hit for no reason. I am not sure where to turn and would really like some help. I live on the South Side of Chicago and work downtown as a receptionist for a big company. I need to talk to someone about my problem. Is that person you? her father. When stalking is part of relational dependency, some or all of the following beliefs, behaviors, and characteristics are usually present:

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