Speak little. Robert Greene puts it perfectly: “Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less.” They have the discipline and this discipline creates a powerful presence. Find your comrades. The Spartan lawgiver Lycurgus introduced the common mess hall and required that all citizens eat together. It was harder to eat more than your fair share, more than your healthy share, when you were surrounded by your comrades in battle. It’s classic Ryan Holiday—an inspiring distillation of ancient (Stoic!) wisdom brought to life through a broad range of ancient and modern heroes. I loved it. I highly recommend it. ( Get a copy of the book here .) Here’s one final, very short story: The Stoic philosopher Cleanthes was walking through Athens one morning when he came across a man deriding himself for some mistake he’d made. Cleanthes paused and said, “Remember, you’re not talking to a bad man.” President Eisenhower famously said that freedom is the “opportunity for self-discipline.” And this is the key. Unless we have temperance, or the virtue of self-discipline, all of these things that supposedly liberate us – technology, privilege, success – will only leave us spiraling without direction or purpose. In other words, access without self-restraint leads to imbalance and dysfunction.

There are many small changes you can make in your life to start conquering your body before it conquers you. Lou Gehrig ने इस discipline को 17 साल तक follow किया। उनकी तरह जब आप लगातार ऐसे काम करना शुरू कर देंगे तो आप 100% अपने ज़िन्दगी में successful बन सकते है। बहुत से लोग smart या talented तो बहुत होते हैं, लेकिन उन्हें meaningful जीवन को जीने में मुश्किल होती है। इस situation को avoid करने और meaningful जीवन को जीने के लिए, हर दिन इन कामों को अपनी priorities समझे और priority के साथ इन्हें पूरा करे। There’s a brief moment between each stimulus and your response. You can either use it to think, gather yourself, and wait for more information – or you can succumb to destructive patterns like getting offended, jumping to conclusions, and assigning blame. Bad situations won’t get better through bad reactions toward them; they’ll just get worse. So hone that tiny moment of patience before you respond. Ask yourself if what you’re experiencing is actually true, whether it’s as annoying or upsetting as it feels. Don’t let fear, anger, or prejudice override your mind. Para conquistar el mundo, uno debe conquistarse primero a sí mismo: las emociones, las acciones y los pensamientos. Eisenhower dijo que la libertad es la práctica de la autodisciplina. Cicerón definió la virtud de la templanza como el esplendor de la vida. Sin límites ni autocontrol, no solo nos arriesgamos a no alcanzar nuestro potencial y a perder lo que hemos logrado, sino que, además, nos aseguramos una vida de humillación y miseria.

Be hard on yourself. “Take the cold bath bravely, ‘’ W.E.B Dubois wrote to his daughter. “ Make yourself do unpleasant things so as to gain the upper hand of your soul.” By being hard on ourselves, it makes it harder for others to be hard on us. By being our own tyrant, we take away the power of tyrants over us. Roman king और stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius ने इन components को “अच्छाई की नीव ” कहा है। उनका मानना था कि जीवन में वो सब कुछ अच्छा है, जो इन qualities को अपनाने साथ, हमारी मेहनत और practice से पैदा होता है। Ryan Holiday कहते हैं कि, इसके जरिए हम सभी अपनी daily life में discipline को सुधारने के लिए काम कर सकते है, और इसमें महारत हासिल करने से मन की शांति को हासिल कर सकते है। अध्याय 2: आत्म-अनुशासन आपको स्वतंत्रता देता है Let’s return to Eisenhower for a moment. When he was young, he learned a Bible verse that echoed a lesson taught by the Stoic philosopher Seneca: “Most powerful is he who has himself in his own power.” Eisenhower carried this lesson throughout a long, unglamorous military career, all the way into his appointment to Supreme Commander of the Allied Forces in World War II – and then into his role as the 34th US president. His enormous success didn’t result from force; instead, he was powerful in his restraint and ability to persuade, compromise, and practice patience. Balance ही एक वजह थी जिसकी वजह से Antoninus इतने successful बनें। हालाकि सिर्फ self – disciplined होना ही असल ज़िन्दगी में मायने नहीं रखता है अगर यह दयालुता, करुणा और प्यार के साथ balanced न हो। Control की journey मुश्किल और challenging होती है। इसलिए कभी-कभी, लोग आपकी पसंद को मानेंगे और कभी कभी समझ नहीं पाएंगे और आपसे पूरी तरह disagree भी हो सकते हैं।

I wholeheartedly recommend this book to anyone who wants to make their life better. Broad brushstroke, I know, but I have a hard time believing that someone could read or listen to this entire book without being at least a little, if not a whole lot better for it. This sentence says it all and says why it isn’t relatable: “people who are doing less important things than you can get away with not being in control”. In other words, Ryan is only talking to powerful Eisenhower famously said that freedom is really the opportunity to practice self-discipline. Cicero called the virtue of temperance the polish of life. Without boundaries and restraint, we risk not only failing to meet our full potential and jeopardizing what we have achieved, but we ensure misery and shame. In a world of temptation and excess, this ancient idea is more urgent than ever. perfection तक पहुंचने की कोशिश न करे। ऐसा करने से आप बेवजह अपने आपको दोषी महसूस कर सकते हैं या अपनी ability पर भरोसा नहीं करेंगे। इसलिए हर बार perfection की कोशिश करने के बजाय, अपना सबसे बेहतर perform करने का goal रखें। और जब आप अपने decide किये हुए target से कम achieve करें, तो हार न मानें और लगातार कोशिश करते रहे। ध्यान रखे हम standard इसलिए बनाते हैं ताकि हम उनकी तरफ पूरी inspiration से काम कर सकें, न कि इसलिए कि हम उन्हें अपने टारगेट को छोड़ने के बहाने के रूप में इस्तेमाल कर सकें। याद रखें, हार हमेशा के लिए नहीं है। और यह आगे बढ़ने का एक मौका होती है। No. Discipline is the win. When you are disciplined about your craft…you win. When you know you put your best into something…you win. When your self-worth is tied to things you can control (effort, for example)…you win.As with most of Ryan’s books, this one has three parts. In Part I, we explore discipline of The Exterior (The Body). In Part II, we explore discipline of The Inner Domain (The Temperament). In Part III, we explore discipline of The Magisterial (The Soul). It’s not a palace or a throne that makes someone impressive, the Stoics would say, but kingly behavior that does. It’s discipline, self-control. He wasn’t after power or status, he said, but, “perfection of character: to live your last day, every day, without frenzy or sloth or pretense.” He was after becoming the best version of himself possible, putting a fine polish on top of everything he did, no matter how humble or impressive.

A long time ago, before he went down in mythology as a great hero, Hercules was traveling in the hills of Greece when he came to a crossroads. Next, go to bed early – for two reasons. One is so you get enough sleep. Be honest: Do you perform better when you’re well rested, or when you’re bleary-eyed and running on fumes? It may sound obvious, but getting enough sleep can change your life. You’ll have more motivation and energy, and you’ll make better decisions. The second reason is so you can master your mornings – those quiet, early hours when your thinking is freshest and you have the most willpower. If you get enough sleep, you can get up and get going before the day’s frustrations wear you down. Be kind to yourself. The Stoic philosopher Cleanthes was once walking through the streets of Athens when he came across a man berating himself for some failure. Seeing how upset he was, Cleanthes–normally one to mind his own business–could not help himself but to stop and say kindly, “Remember, you’re not talking to a bad man.” Discipline isn’t about beating yourself up. There’s a firmness involved, for sure. Ultimately, after a lifetime of study of Stoicism, this is how Seneca came to judge his own growth—“What progress have I made?” he wrote. “I have begun to be a friend to myself.” It is an act of self discipline to be kind to the self. To be a good friend. To make yourself better. To celebrate your progress, however small. That’s what friends do.simple activity को रोज़ रोज़ करते हुए मुश्किल लगने वाले goal को भी आसानी से पा सकते हैं, लेकिन उस छोटी activity को avoid करने से, आप छोटे goal को भी achieve नहीं कर पाएंगे और उसे पाना भी मुश्किल लग सकता है। Physically strong बनने के साथ आप अपनी willpower को भी बड़ा बना रहे होते हैं। अध्याय 4: मन शांत करने के लिए अपने शारीरिक आत्म-अनुशासन का निर्माण करें En una época de excesos y desorden, la autodisciplina es ahora más necesaria que nunca. ¿Te atreves a cavar hondo para encontrarla? Y, más importante, ¿la usarás? Solo con autodisciplina podrás dirigir tu vida rumbo a la verdadera realización. Bring distinction to everything you do. Plutarch tells us about a general and statesman in Greece named Epaminondas who, despite his brilliance on and off the battlefield, was appointed to an insultingly minor office in Thebes responsible for the city’s sewers. In fact, it was because of his brilliance that he was put in this role, as a number of jealous and fearful rivals thought it would effectively end his career. But instead of being provoked or despairing at his irrelevance, Epaminondas took fully to his new job, declaring that the distinction of the office isn’t brought to the man, the man brings the distinction to the office. With discipline and earnestness, Plutarch wrote, “he proceeded to transform that insignificant office into a great and respected honor, even though previously it had involved nothing more than overseeing the clearing of dung and the diverting of water from the streets.”