I was hoping for a book that would talk about these same issues, but wouldn’t tell me to just pray about it or give it up to the lord. What we've gone through is not a waste when it fertilizes that softened ground of our hearts, increasing the chances for new life to thrive. So go in with your eyes open to the fact that this author is not a therapist or counselor, instead she is a Christian woman who has been through a lot and has a very specific way of dealing with it all. I forgive ____ for ____, and whatever my feelings don't yet allow for the blood of Jesus will surely cover. Bitterness isn’t usually found most deeply in those whose hearts are hard but rather in those who are most tender.

I found that the the book relied on a lot of personal examples in Lysa’s life and not enough Scripture and Biblical truth to back up the statements she made throughout it. I’m a big fan of It’s Not Supposed To Be This Way by Lysa TerKeurst, so I was super excited to get a copy of this book. New York Times bestselling author Lysa TerKeurst helps readers address how to stop suffering from what others have done to them while exploring what forgiveness is, what it isn't, and how to deal with difficult relationships. But I will not negotiate excuses or navigate exceptions with lengthy explanations that wear me down emotionally. The biggest thing that makes Lysa Terkeurst’s writing so impactful is that she counters all of my own thoughts before I had time to think them.If you are struggling with an event (or several) in your life, this is a great place to find some help with how to forgive and how to move on to happiness.

Taking what was actually terrible in the past and tricking ourselves into thinking it was better than it was. I had high expectations for this book considering the topic of forgiveness, because Lord knows it’s very hard to forgive people and let go of hurt that’s caused. Relationships were reduced to attempts at managing what I feared about them rather than enjoying what I loved about them. My ability to heal cannot be conditional on the other person receiving adequate consequences for their disobedience but only on my obedience to trust God's justice whether I ever see it or not. The 103 third parties who use cookies on this service do so for their purposes of displaying and measuring personalized ads, generating audience insights, and developing and improving products.Each year, Lysa is a featured keynote presenter at more than 40 events across North America, including the Women of Joy Conferences and the Catalyst Leadership Conference. I have held many things in my hands, and I have lost them all; but whatever I have placed in God’s hands, that I still possess. And that’s when I just want to lie down on the floor in a very dramatic way and loudly declare, “BUT I AM NOT JESUS! Staying here, blaming them, and forever defining your life by what they did will only increase the pain.

He is faithful, so if He's allowing what I'm seeing, it must somehow be part of His weaving together a much bigger plan. We all need someone to listen to our problems and try to help us out, but this only brought to me a story of her life. Adding humility into the situation acknowledges the unfairness I have felt but affirms a trust in God to do what He needs to both in their hearts and mine. The book arrived in a bubble-wrapped package and I must say, I'm thankful for how well-protected the it is. Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle of unresolved pain, playing offenses over and over in your mind?In reality, though, it was a thief in disguise, out to steal every bit of closeness between me and those I love. But weeping with them and rejoicing with them does not mean trying to take control of their out-of-control choices and behaviors. For anyone grasping for a hint of grace through forgiveness, this book will certainly be a blessing.

By using the Web site, you confirm that you have read, understood, and agreed to be bound by the Terms and Conditions. I was hesitant with the author given her association with false teachers and other problematic things I've seen regarding her teaching styles. And she's discovered that--to find life-giving freedom--you have to let go of bound-up resentment and resistance to forgiving people who aren't willing to make things right. I cried through nearly every chapter as God's word spoke to me, and I plan to revisit these pages often in the future. With deep empathy, therapeutic insight, and rich Bible teaching coming out of 1,000 hours of study, Lysa will help youlearn how to move on when the other person refuses to change and never says they're sorry;walk through a step by step process to free yourself from the hurt of your past and feel less offended today;discover what the Bible really says about forgiveness and the peace that comes from living it out right now;identify what's stealing trust and vulnerability from your relationships so you can believe there is still good ahead; anddisempower the triggers hijacking your emotions by embracing the two necessary parts of forgiveness.I have a choice to keep adding my anger and resentment into the equation, or I can make the rare choice to add in my own humility. Identify what's stealing trust and vulnerability from your relationships, so you can believe there is still good ahead. we are working toward keeping our compassion for others without slipping into having out-of-control reactions to their out-of-control actions. When this one came out I was super excited but then started it, could not even finish our bible studies and this just turned me off. Cynicism dressed like a security guard, making me believe that if I hoped for less, it would protect me and prevent more pain.