Hold on to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

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First, relationship of parents and children is describe as strictly hierarchical, patronizing and asymmetric. The major one is that I disagree with the premise that peers are the reason for kids turning away from their parents. It crosses parents and kids of all schooling situations, family situations, or socio-economic status. UK Edition: Out Jan 2019) explains the causes of this crucial breakdown of parental influence—and demonstrates ways to “reattach” to sons and daughters, establish the proper hierarchy in the home, make kids feel safe and understood, and earn back your children’s loyalty and love. Hold On to Your Kids is full of easy tips for avoiding calamity - Times You may also be interested in.

It took years for his daughter to turn to him for advice, “which would have been the natural thing for her to do all along,” he says.

The emergent child – the child who is self-motivated and not driven by needs for peer contact – seems like an anomaly, irregular, a little off the beaten track.

Towards the end of the book are lots of advice and information about how to bond/attach to kids at various ages and in various situations. He brings to us his unique synthesis of the developmental literature and his exceptional ability to make children understandable. I understand that it gives a somewhat alternative view to parenting to most mainstream "systems" and there are some interesting insights to be had.We need to make it a habit of collecting our children daily and repeatedly until they are old enough to function as independent beings” (p 179). Bet piktinausi tuo, kad itin didelis akcentas dedamas tam, kaip blogai orientacija į bendraamžius ir tai atitraukia nuo tėvų, bet apie pačių tėvų indėlį į tai užsimenama minimaliai.