Sometimes you’ll also see a measurement for the gap between the ring and the body, which can be useful if you have particularly large or high hanging testicles, but most of the time you won’t need to measure for this part. Yeah, probably. If you’re a complete beginner, there’s nothing wrong with buying a few cheap cages in different sizes and styles. Similar to the penis and scrotum diameter, place the tape measure on top of your penis, but this time at the widest part of your glans (the head of the penis). Wrap it all the way around and note where it crosses over. We’ve rounded up the latest and most excellent toys to hold your member captive for all your chastity fans. Are you feeling particularly adventurous? Explore our favorite extreme sex toys or even some of the best ball stretchers to pair up with your chastity cage. A snug-fitting metal cage will keep your penis from moving at all, whereas a looser plastic cage will allow for some movement and just prevent you from getting hard.

The best way to take accurate measurements is to use a flexible tape measure. These are the kind you usually see tailors use to measure for clothing. If it’s not comfortable to wear, but you want it on forever, ask yourself: “Is this worth losing my penis over?”

If you are between sizes, choose the larger size. This leaves room for your penis to grow slightly during the day. Place the tape measure on top of your penis against your pubic muscle. Wrap the tape measure all the way around your penis and testicles and note where it crosses over. Michael is the author of the Total Chastity Diary and has been in and out of chastity since his mid-thirties. He’s now 41. He lives and works in Boston, has a white-collar job, and is single by choice. When you try a new cage, pay attention to your body. Any discomfort or pain indicates a problem with the fit.

Shaving your public hair can also help with this, and reduce the chance of pain for your hair being pulled by the cage. If they hang down with a height of more than 2”, or extend away from your body with a length of more than 1.5”, then you should definitely choose a cage with a large gap.Too loose, and it could fall off while wearing it, which is an uncomfortable thing to experience if you’re wearing your cage in public. Don’t be afraid to try multiple cages. Finding one that fits well can massively enhance your chastity experience.

You have to remember these devices aren’t tested. They’re not medical devices, so there’s basically no science telling us if they’re safe or dangerous. Even for those who enjoy pain, a chastity cage shouldn’t hurt. If it does, it could cause lesions, blisters, or even permanent damage. The key is getting the right fit. You’ll need to have accurate measurements to find the right size chastity cage for you, and even then, everybody and every cage is different, so it’s normal to go through some trial and error.When Shakespeare wrote, “discretion is the better part of valor”, he probably didn’t mean chastity cages. (Then again, who knows, maybe it was his thing.)