But enough about me. Let’s talk about you. What do YOU think of me?” - Bette Midler as CC Bloom in Beaches.

When] I discovered Dr. McBride’s book, Will I Ever Be Good Enough? and began recommending it to my clients; the changes I saw in their recovery were amazing. It was as if a 100 watt shining light bulb had been lit in a very dark room. Beginning with Step One: “Acceptance and Grief” to Step Five: “Ending the Narcissistic Legacy,” I now had practical and insightful exercises to teach my clients how to set boundaries with a narcissistic mother, how to create healthy separation and individuation from mother, how to grieve and accept what they could not change, and how to reach inner peace through the forgiveness process. Because of the results I saw in my clients from reading Dr. McBride’s book, I decided to complete her training, Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers, which expanded my knowledge in this field as well as providing clients with resources in the form of homework assignments to implement throughout their recovery journey.They tend to treat their daughters in similar ways, too. Australia-based counselor Shagoon Maurya notes that mothers with narcissistic tendencies might consistently: Her work has focused on feelings of vulnerability and shame and how those feelings keep us from living up to our full potential. In this book, she guides the reader through the process of realizing that their vulnerabilities are not weakness at all, but rather, powerful reminders that we need to stay open and recognize the humanity in all of us. She discusses how these gifts help us develop empathy and experience love, laughter, and gratitude. 11. Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brené Brown

Narcissistic Mothers: The Characteristics of the Narcissistic Parent: Jealousy, Manipulation, Gaslighting. Consequences on Daughters. Recovery from abuse of a toxic relationship with a mother by Elizabeth Ex Another thing I tend to really dislike about these kind of books is when the author encourages us to treat our abuser with compassion. After years of emotional manipulation where I personally was forced to give compassion to my mother, it feels very counterproductive to then ask me to give her that again, after I have already learned that she doesn’t need my compassion, she needs my praise. Narcissists require “emotional fluffers” to feel good about themselves and if you’re their child, chances are you’re already aware of this and have worked years as their personal fluffer anticipating their emotional needs. Careful now, guess wrong and they’ll berate you. Posting this review scares me so much. There is so much shame and aloneness that comes with this situation. It’s a situation I’ve been trying to navigate for around 2 years. According to Maurya, growing up feeling unworthy to your mother can result in a need for regular validation in your relationships. Talk to a friend or seek therapy if it’s something that you believe you won’t be able to handle alone,” suggests Maurya.Discover how you have internalized verbal and nonverbal messages from your mother and how these have translated into overachievement or self-sabotage