Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-first Century

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Intimate Sexuality and Intimate Relating are my unique systems of practical intimacy and sex coaching and education which have been developed from over a decade of working with clients. These 2 road maps give you the structure and tools to support you to awaken / transform your sex life and intimate relationships, in a way that feels true to you. We do this through a mix of coaching, education and practices: Held in loving embrace: A clothed comforting session of warm tender holding and shared intimate connection. An allowance of body softening and moulding together through letting go of expectation, slowing down, breathing deeply and opening to the felt sense of being loved. Essential for maintaining good health and well-being – reducing anxiety, tension, feelings of isolation and loneliness. Co-regulates trauma response and enhances life-affirming safety within. If you think sexual and spiritual bliss can'­t be found in today'­s fast-paced world, you haven'­t experienced Urban Tantra. With a juicy mix of erotic how-to and pleasure-centered spiritual wisdom, acclaimed sex educator Barbara Carrellas radically updates the ancient practice of Tantra for modern sexual explorers desiring to push past their edge in search of the great cosmic orgasm.With more than one hundred easy-to-follow techniques for expanded orgasmic states and solo and partner play (as well as more adventurous practices), this in-depth guide reveals the delicious worlds of ecstasy available to all, including:The Erotic Awakening Massage • Breath and Energy Orgasms • Twenty-Minute Tantra Evolutionary Selfloving • Sex and Healing • Tantric BDSMNo matter what your gender, sexual preference, or erotic tastes, URBAN TANTRA will expand your notions about pleasure and open you up to new heights of intimacy and sexual fulfillment.

It’s also an opportunity to provide people who work with sex a place to find a common language. Often Tantric practitioners speak in a new age, energy based language that keeps people who would like their services away from them because they’re put off by language. Sex therapists can be too clinical to attract some of the clients that they want to work with. Kink professionals can be a little scary, and not in a good way. So we transform language so that people get to say what they do in a way that will attract the people they really want to work with. Barbara has been featured in the videos Selfloving, The Sluts & Goddesses Video Workshop, Annie Sprinkle’s Amazing World of Orgasm, Zen Pussy, in the film Sacred Sex, in the Learning Channel’s Unusual Orgasms segment of the series Strange Sex, in numerous episodes of the HBO television series Real Sex, Australian television’s Sex/Life and on Britain’s Sky Channel as part of the documentary, Sex in America. She collaborated with Annie Sprinkle to present a new/ancient vision of female sexuality in theatrical form in MetamorphoSex, a week-long workshop for women culminating in ritual-performances. She also directed the Australian premiere of Annie’s renowned one-woman show, Post Porn Modernist. Barbara is proud to have enjoyed a long theatrical career as a general manager, producer and theatre manager on Broadway, Off-Broadway and in alternative theatre in New York. She is still active as a performance artist. Another major piece is gender. I think this is quite unique to the Urban Tantra ® trainings, the extent to which we work with gender and help people develop a way of working with people of all genders. A lot of work around sexuality is work around people’s expectations or misinterpretations or confrontations with gender. So we spend a lot of time exploring personal experiences of gender. Working with GLBTQ clients is another big piece. As is working with power and intense sensation, kink, or BDSM. We look at the conscious essence of power exchange and of intense sensation. And again, we do that to take it apart. Barbara Carrellas is a brilliant writer. She has a unique way of making her readers feel comfortable exploring avenues of sexuality they have longed to know about. To Barbara, being sexual is as normal and comfortable as breathing, and she would like all of us to feel this way.” — Louise Hay, author of Empowering Women and You Can Heal Your Life When intimacy and sex have been a source of stress or worry, my clients find that the sessions bring fun and lightness to these areas of your life. The programme gives you the focus and the structure for lasting change to happen.This is probably going to sound crazy but here goes. I am 67 and I’ve been married to the same woman for 43 years. I know that before we married, she had been with about 10 other men sexually. I am only about 5.8 inches when fully erect, and for some reason that I can’t explain, I have been bothered lately wondering how many of the men that she had been with were bigger or even much bigger than me. Does a woman know the difference between say a half inch bigger or a whole inch bigger? I understand if she ran across a 7-plus-inch guy it would be noticeable. So that’s my question. Do women notice the difference when a guy is a half inch to a whole inch shorter than other partners? Please don’t ask me to move on and leave it alone. I really would like to know. Barbara currently offers inspiring and life-changing workshops, lectures, and keynotes on a variety of topics to individuals, schools, conferences, businesses, and the arts.

Feathers Floggers & Fluff: An exploration of all things sensual and ‘kinky’. Suitable for beginners and those wishing to step into a deeper exploration of sensation, surrender, boundaries, erotic expansion, non genital focused pure prolonged pleasure. Now, we cook meals together. Sleepover at each other’s houses. Go to movies. He listens to and remembers everything I’ve ever said. He’s one of the kindest men I’ve ever met. He’s one of the best people in our friend group. It’s the best sex of my life. I find myself falling in love with him, as he’s been more of a supportive partner to me than men I’ve been in an actual relationship with for years. We’re now more than a year into our song and dance. I have no problem continuing as we are, but fear my feelings growing stronger will require me to speak up at some point. I’d hate to “ruin” what we have. Practices – This is a transformative programme because it is experience based learning meaning, you don’t just sit around and talk about these things, I invite you to practice and embody what we explore and this is what creates lasting change. The more Barbara explored sex and consciousness, the more she saw the possibilities for healing and expanded consciousness in all forms of “sacred” practices, including Tantra, Tao, Quodoushka, Reiki, breathwork, metaphysics, performance, ritual, herbal medicine, bodywork, erotic massage, commercial sex work and BDSM. Her books and her workshops are an eclectic mix of sexual and spiritual practices designed to encourage readers and participants of all sexual preferences and genders to expand their capacity for both pleasure and spiritual fulfillment. How to give your client/student what s/he/they want and need without compromising the integrity of your process.This workshop series will focus on modern Tantric techniques and practices that can be learned in a virtual environment and practiced in (and after) times of social distancing. The series is specifically designed to provide support and pleasure as we navigate this prolonged period of uncertainty and slowly emerge from our isolation. Does any of this sound familiar? I’ve been where you are; I’ve experienced the pain and the suffering and the longing – and I’ve spent many years discovering and understanding why my life was this way. A big part of me never thought change was possible, but a small spark inside of me kept taking the next step and over the years, that spark grew into a strong flame and I can now say that I deeply love and value myself and have a life, work and a relationship that I truly love.

I am thrilled to partner with my dear friend—erotic pioneer Joseph Kramer—to bring you the best online erotic instruction available today. Watch online tutorials by some of my favorite erotic educators, including Joseph, Chester Mainard and Annie Sprinkle, among many others. And be sure to catch my new video— Transcendent Bodies. Whether you are a tantrika, a pro domme, a daka/dakini, a sex therapist, a sex educator, a companion, or anyone else who uses or wants to use a more conscious approach to sexuality in your practice, this program is for you. Urban Tantra is the most pleasurable, fun, meaningful, and liberating book on sex ever! Thank you, Barbara!" --Christiane Northrup

Grounded in life itself as their spiritual path their passion is to hold people safely in exploration and expansion of all aspects of erotic expression within consensual and negotiated boundaries. With the intention of inviting you to live totally truthfully passionately from a place of pure prolonged pleasure you are invited to touch your edge of optimum engagement in all things sensual and erotic whilst being held in warm loving embrace. The founder of Tantrapure-international (2004-2018) and Massage for Lovers (2006-15) they have shared the teachings of embodied tantric practice and sensual intimacy with thousands of individuals and couples across the globe. Academic and professional qualifications include Msc Psychosexual & Relationship Counselling, BA(hons) including Diversity, sexuality and Law, Sexuality and Pathology, The ungendered life. Hakomi Body Centred Therapy. Kink as a Lifestyle (1999), Like a Pro Urban tantra training, Wheel of consent, and currently undertaking Trauma-informed training. We value collaboration over competition. We are unique, creative, individuals who choose to use our talents in support of each others’ successes. When one of us prospers, we all prosper. Barbara Carrellas is the founder of the Urban Tantra ® Professional Training Program. She is the author of Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century, Ecstasy is Necessary: A Practical Guide to Sex, Relationships and Oh So Much More, and Luxurious Loving: Tantric Inspirations for Passion and Pleasure. Barbara’s pioneering Urban Tantra ® workshops were named best in New York City by TimeOut/New York magazine. She was awarded a 2016 Sexual Freedom Award for Lifetime Achievement.