This guide will help you across your child's whole childhood. It provides respectful solutions to both you and your child without the need for yelling or punishing so that your love and growth will have a domino effect on all that witness it. The retort: So you are trying to tell me that if my kid colors on all of my walls, I’m just supposed to love them and be all kind to them? The retort: My child is going to need to have this figured out as an adult, so they might as well figure it out now.

The book isn't all bad. The emphasis on developing a trusting relationship with the child is, if not practical, at least encouraging. Early in the book she presents the idea that children don't know how to calm themselves down - those neural pathways haven't developed strongly yet. So having a parent guide them through that over and over helps those pathways develop until they are able to do it by themselves. I wish there had been more on this point. Apart from the problematic concept of the Hulk by itself, the author wants parents to "hulk it up" with "swagger," whatever that is supposed to mean. We are supposed to exude confidence as parents. We have all seen confident people and people who have this natural respectability and authority with children. If we were that type of person, we wouldn't be reading this book. But I don't think the author understands that *we can't just will ourselves to become more confident.* Confidence doesn't work that way.

Disciplining Without Damage is not about trying to remain calm 24/7 or denying the range of emotions you experience, or letting your kids run wild. I have mixed feelings about this book. As a whole, yes, it is helpful. I agree with a lot of the "big picture" ideas. The author is advocating attachment parenting, setting firm limits while allowing the child's reactions to those limits and putting a primary focus on spending quality time with the child and strengthening the child-parent emotional bond. All great stuff. One plus I will say is that compared to another, similar author I read (Laura Markham who wrote the forward in this book by the way) the scripts given in this book are shorter, more realistic when put into practice. Master your emotions with my "What to do when you lose it" method. Plus, you'll receive bonus resources and additional support, equipping you to discipline without damage for every age. The reality: Nope. I don’t. Although even in the area of industrial organizational psychology, the data is very clear that employees perform better and companies are more successful if the leadership culture is one of compassion alongside expectations and firmness. But remember, your child is not an adult. Your child is a child. With a child’s brain. And with all of the realities that come with an immature brain in terms of behavior and emotional regulation. See number (1) above and get on the program of growing them a brain that is going to help them sort out how to best conduct themselves in the workplace, and also, how to best manage their stress if they happen to have an asshole boss. My name is Arabella Hille and for the last 10 years I have been working and educating my son from home.

The retort: That is exactly the same thing as helicopter parenting, and we all know that is bad for kids! My son once suffered from crippling low self-esteem. This was due to being bullied at school that resulted in an incident where he tried to take his own life. He was just 8 years old... When your child is threatening a meltdown in the grocery aisle, it really is possible to keep your cool, get the behaviour turned around, and support healthy development, all at the same time! In reality, discipline is about connecting with your children in their time of need. We provide that support through our connection with them, that calms and steadies and regulates them – and then we give some teaching about what we hope will be able to change about that reaction the next time around. Not that we expect [that it] actually will change! The good news is, that this does not have to be your reality. In this chapter, you will become aware of what is going on behaviorally and how to avoid going off the edge with everyone else. This chapter will empower you to do something different in your parenting than the masses. You will learn the keys to cultivating a culture of success in your home so that you too can experience the peace and freedom you deserve in your home!

I'm Arabella Hille. I am an experienced Parenting Educator qualified in Behavioral Science. I'm also a mother, former teacher, the author of the best-selling Ultimate Guide Parenting series, and Founder of Victorious Parenting. Via my books and programs, I have helped over 70,000 caregivers transform their home lives! my home life and to my classroom as a teacher. I developed my own methods and saw my child and students shine. The retort: If you molly coddle a child through every single tough time, how will that child every deal with tough times out in the big bad world? During my research I developed a passion involving juvenile behavioral issues, particularly the mitigating factors that lead up to suicidal ideation. As I learned I applied the strategies to

The reality: Absolutely correct on the point that kids need to know who is in charge. However, is an adult who is holding a line very firmly but very kindly not in charge? And what is the difference in terms of the impact on child development between that kind of an adult, and an adult who holds the line firmly using fear tactics and brute force? The difference is enormous. Like life-altering enormous. Parents who hold lines with firmness AND kindness, are both showing the child the way of the world AND sculpting neural pathways that promote self-regulation. Parents who hold lines with loudness, anger, shouting, yelling, and brute force actually disregulate children further, potentially robbing them of the opportunity to become capable of self-regulation and disposing them to all sorts of vulnerabilities in terms of mental health challenges as life marches on. The parent who is both firm and kind is a parent who is operating from a place of power derived from relationship and emotional connection. The parent who is muscling their way through with fear and force is operating from a place of role-based power, derived only from their position as a big person.

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